The Quality Of Your Questions
Whether you’re aware of it or not, you ask yourself hundreds of questions every day - everything from the insignificant, “what should I wear?” to the more significant, “why can’t I be happy?”
Most of the time your questions and answers are on autopilot.
However, some questions like those about your happiness deserve more than just a passing thought because they have a huge impact on your quality of life.
So think for a minute about the questions you ask yourself.
Do they empower or disempower you?
Are the questions you’re asking on autopilot keeping you stuck in negative thought patterns where there seems to be no solution? Do you find that you're always getting the same result? Are you in a constant state of unhappiness because you can’t bring about the changes you want in your life?
If that sounds like where you are right now, perhaps it’s time to rethink your questions.
It’s time to examine the quality of your questions. Because the right type of questions can help improve the quality of your life.
For example, let’s say you struggle with weight. You ask yourself “why can’t I lose weight?” But when you ask this type of judgmental question, there’s a very good chance your response is pre-programmed in your mind. The answer you give yourself might be “because I like potato chips too much, so I’ll never be thin.”
What if instead, you asked yourself “how can I enjoy a healthy meal today?” When you ask yourself a more thought-provoking empowering question that focuses on a positive result, your brain works harder to find a creative solution.
Negative questions keep you stuck in negative thought patterns. Your mind does a great job of keeping you where it thinks you belong. If you ask yourself a negative disempowering question, your mind will answer you with a negative disempowering solution.
So how can you train your mind to think differently, to elevate your thinking to create better circumstances?
Start by asking broader, more thought-provoking and empowering questions that focus on a positive outcome. Let your mind work to find a creative solution. When you up-level your thoughts, you up-level your actions, which leads to more positive outcomes.
Asking yourself “why can’t I find a decent job?” reinforces a negative thought pattern, as well as a limiting belief you have about yourself. Instead of allowing your mind to search for a better answer, your mind defaults to a negative response like “you don’t have enough experience or education, so you’ll never be successful.” You’ve unintentionally programmed your mind to think negatively and until you reprogram it to think positively, it will continue to answer your questions with negative responses.
When you ask yourself judgmental questions, you’re encouraging the negative self-talk. Your mind focuses on being unsuccessful and settles for negativity instead of finding a solution.
The key to positively reprogramming yourself is to stop the negative questions and instead ask, “How can I see this situation differently?” How can you ask a question that focuses on what you want, not what you don't have?
Asking yourself “how can I get paid to do something I love?” for example, focuses your mind on what you want, not what you haven’t achieved. This type of question puts your attention on the outcome you want. “Why can’t I find a decent job?” makes you feel negative, hopeless, and leads to self-criticism. “How can I get paid to do something I love?” makes you feel optimistic, hopeful, and empowered. It forces your mind to start searching for a response that guides you to your ultimate outcome.
If you consciously stop yourself from asking a negative question and refocus your mind on a question that reflects your desired outcome, you ask your mind to find an empowering solution. You have to consciously break the cycle of autopilot questions that lead to negative self-talk with no solutions and replace it with thought-provoking questions that force you to find a solution.
The questions you ask yourself determine how you feel. Your feelings reinforce the beliefs you have about yourself. Your beliefs determine your actions. Your actions determine your outcome.
Ultimately, the quality of your life is determined by the questions you ask yourself every day.
So the next time you catch yourself asking a negative, autopilot question, think instead “how can I see this differently?” Then allow your mind to find a new empowering solution.
If a question you consistently ask is “why is it so hard to find a job I love”, instead ask yourself “how can I empower myself to love what I do every day?”